I Am a Homophobe

A phobia is defined in the dictionary as a persistent, irrational fear of a specific object, activity, or situation that leads to a compelling desire to avoid it. Homophobe is a term used to denigrate and bully those who oppose homosexuality. But given the facts, a fear of homosexuals and desire to avoid them is perhaps not so irrational. It ends up being as good a word to describe my fear as any, and I don’t think the homosexuals should control the discussion. So I am coming out of the closet.

I am a homophobe. I am afraid of homosexuals, their lifestyle choices, and their protectors and promoters.

I am afraid they are tearing my country apart with their perverse desires to rip the traditional family to shreds. The only reason for homosexual “marriage” is to destroy real marriage.

  • Michelangelo Signorile, writing in Out! magazine, has stated that homosexuals should, “…fight for same-sex marriage and its benefits and then, once granted, redefine the institution of marriage completely … To debunk a myth and radically alter an archaic institution. … The most subversive action lesbians and gays can undertake-and one that would perhaps benefit all of society-is to transform the notion of ‘family’ altogether.” (Out! magazine, Dec./Jan., 1994.)
  • “In 1972 the National Coalition of Gay Organizations demanded the ‘repeal of all legislative provisions that restrict the sex or number of persons entering into a marriage unit; and the extension of legal benefits to all persons who cohabit regardless of sex or numbers.’ Would polygamy invite abuse of child brides, as feminists in Muslim countries and prosecutors in Mormon Utah charge? No. Group marriage could comprise any combination of genders.” (Stop the Wedding!: Why Gay Marriage Isn’t Radical Enough; Judith Levine; The Village Voice; July 23-29, 2003.)
  • See also the booklet Same Sex Marriage: Til Death Do Us Part?; Dr. Paul Cameron; published by Family Research Institute of Colorado Springs, CO. Get it at http://www.familyresearchinst.org/. Read it online at http://www.biblebelievers.com/Cameron1.html#info. Homosexual marriages are short lived; Studies show homosexual marriage is hazardous to one’s health.

I am afraid they have no desire for monogamous relationships of any kind, married or not.

  • 43% of white male homosexuals estimated they had sex with 500 or more different partners. 75% had 100 or more. 28% (the largest subcategory) reported more than 1000 partners. 79% said more than half their partners were strangers. 70% said more than half their sexual partners were men with whom they had sex only once. (Homosexualities: A Study of Diversity Among Men and Women; Bell and Weinberg; New York; Simon and Schuster; 1978, pp. 308-309; referring to a study published by The Kinsey Institute. I’ve also seen it cited as published by Touchstone; 1979.)
  • Homosexual activists and marketing experts Marshall Kirk and Hunter Madsen say “[T]he cheating ratio of ‘married’ gay males, given enough time, approaches 100%…Many gay lovers, bowing to the inevitable, agree to an ‘open relationship,’ for which there are as many sets of ground rules as there are couples.” (After the Ball; by homosexuals Marshall Kirk and Hunter Madsen; Plume; Sept. 1990; page 330.)
  • “The single most important factor that keeps couples together past the ten-year mark is the lack of possessiveness they feel. Many couples learn very early in their relationship that ownership of each other sexually can become the greatest internal threat to their staying together.” (The Male Couple: How Relationships Develop; by homosexuals David McWhirter and Andrew Mattison; Prentice Hall Trade; February 1985.)
  • “The incidence of domestic violence among gay men is nearly double that in the heterosexual population.” (Intimate Violence in Lesbian Relationships: Discussion of Survey Findings and Practice Implications; Gwat Yong Lie and Sabrina Gentlewarrier; Journal of Social Service Research 15 (1991): 41–59. Quoted from www.exodusglobalalliance.org/ishomosexualityhealthyp60.php.

I am afraid of their diseases, their AIDS virus, the way they carelessly spread so many STD’s and the death and destruction that follow in the wake of their lifestyle choice.

Read more at www.wholebible.com/Homophobe.htm

Christian Faith and Practice through Sex

I thought I’d get your attention with the title. Okay, so sex as God intended is not a disgusting practice, it’s disgusting if not done as He intended. This is another in a series of basic articles intended to be an introduction and a help to those of us who are just beginning a Torah submissive walk with the Father. You might want to send the kids out of the room unless you are ready to explain the birds and the bees to them, especially as it pertains to this article. I will try to be as delicate as possible, but most of the time there is just no other way to say it. So if your sensibilities are easily offended perhaps you should put this away for another day.
The Hebrew word for “knowing intimately” is yadah. This is also the word for the sex act. In Genesis, Adam “knew” his wife Eve (Genesis 4:1,25) and many other places we are told we should “know” the Lord (Jeremiah 9:23,24, 31:35; Hosea 2:20, 6:3). The Lord “knows” those who are His (Nah. 1:7). In Matthew 7:21-23 Jesus says that He didn’t “know” (Greek ginosko) those who talked a lot about what they did for Him, but He does know those who rely on what He did for them. Physical intimacy between husband and wife can be a picture of Spiritual intimacy between the body of the Messiah and the Messiah. Because of this we should keep the marriage bed pure (Heb. 13:4).

There really are no laws pertaining to the sex act itself as practiced between two married people, except for the rule on not sharing sex during the flow of menstruation (Leviticus. 18:19, 20:18). As far as I know nothing else is prohibited, so sensitivity and compassion should be the rule for figuring out what’s an acceptable activity and what is not. If you want to swing from the chandelier in a Tarzan outfit, go right ahead. If you use a trampoline, more power to ya. If batteries are included, I don’t want to know about it. Just remember to communicate and treat the other person as you would want to be treated. And guys, this means making a real effort to slow down and understand your woman. They frequently need a little more “mental” involvement than we do.

This is a difficult area. Supposedly the two leading reasons for fights between couples are money (first) and sex. Many marriages have foundered because of the inability to reconcile differences in quality, frequency, timing and particulars. Personally I think people expect way too much from sex. We hear a tremendous amount of talk about it from others, or from sources such as magazines and movies. To hear these others talk we are supposed to experience an alternate reality or set a new land speed record every time we share physical intimacy with our spouses. So we think that if we don’t feel heaven and earth move something must be wrong. Well, give yourself a break and forget all the talk. In my opinion, sex is simply an extension of your relationship, and sometimes it will be good while other times merely adequate or even boring. Every once in a while you may actually feel heaven and earth move. So it varies a little. So what. If your needs are not being met talk with your spouse. See if you can’t come to a more equitable arrangement based on your wants and the wants of your spouse. But try to maintain a balance, add a dash of self-restraint where necessary, and above all practice, practice, practice till you get it right. Can I get another amen?

Continued in the article of the same title on the Whole Bible Christian site.