Suicide Silence - Duct Tape and Refusal to talk about Suicide
Personal response from my own experiences with friends and family killing themselves.
Speaking up about it
Bruce takes off the duct tape and speaks of his understanding of
divorce, homosexuality and sin in general in connection to suicide. A
very personal article on the truth of consequences connected to
"freedom" apart from the Word.
Affirming deadly lifestyles
The whole process of "affirming" someone's lifestyle choice is really
nothing more than selfish cowardice. We don't want to confront, but even
if we did we don't have the tools to correct the errant chooser. We
don't know the Word, and in general we don't live it ourselves. We
"affirm" other's lifestyles because we want to do our own choosing our
own way too. We ignore adultery because we want to commit adultery. We
ignore other sexual sins because we might want to do some sexual sinning
ourselves. Maybe not the same kind, but still sexual sin. We can
acknowledge the privilege of choosing, but we do not have to acknowledge
that every choosing is right. Or good. Or healthy.
Tired of silence
But we still have to shut up. It is so very sad when you know the
answers but cannot say them. The time for talking, however, is way
before the bad things happen. We need to practice, preach and teach the
Word, in season and out of season. We also need to "remove the evil from
(our) midst." If people are not getting the Word, no wonder they think
divorce is okay. If we shrink back from the Word and teach
"affirmation," then we are directly contributing to divorce, sexual sin
and death. The answer is to cling to life, and encourage others to cling
also. Not our own version of life, but the life of God. Don't stay
silent. Speak to God, grab hold of His affirmation, read and do His
Word. If we do, death will be only a memory.
There Are Times When Silence Is Not Golden
This is not connected with the band of the same name. I titled this
before I knew there was a metal band with the name.
Printable version for personal printing and use
Our video Suicide Silence
Her name was Theresa, a woman who killed herself at the end of
December 2004 by jumping from a cliff on a hill near my home. She left
behind eight kids, a broken marriage, and saddened friends. I knew
Theresa a little because a few years before she died I answered an ad
she placed at a local music store for people to form a band. We played
together a couple of times; she was gifted with writing songs and
playing keyboard and guitar. It didn't work out for us to keep playing
together because she lived in a town about 45 minutes away, so I mostly
lost touch with her except for a couple of emails. Once she attended a
Bible study we had in our home but as I remember the distance again was
too great so she didn't keep coming. I was reacquainted with her when I
saw the newspaper article telling of her death.
I thought at
first that she could not possibly have committed suicide, because the
last I knew she seemed to be well adjusted if melancholy and bitter over
her divorce. She had, I heard, solid relationships with a Baptist church
she attended after she moved to our town, loved her kids, and had
various friends. I suspected foul play; she couldn't have jumped; she
must have been pushed. But as the details were related to me, they found
her footprints at the top of the cliff showing she was running towards
the edge, and she had to jump far enough to clear a ledge just below the
lip of the cliff. What sort of pain and anger, I wondered at the time,
drove her to run toward her own destruction like that?
More
recently a nephew of mine also decided to end his life. I didn’t know
him at all, really, because he lived in another state and he’s the son
from a previous marriage of my sister-in-law’s second husband. I met him
a couple of times when he was a teenager. He was a likeable, quiet kid
who was into computers and was an amateur astronomer. According to
friends he was smart and had two astronomy magazine articles written
about some of his work. Like Theresa, he also seemed stable and there
was no warning that he was feeling suicidal. Neither left a note, so we
can only guess at the final straw that caused them to self-depart this
physical plane.
As I understand it, for a few days before
Theresa killed herself she wore duct tape over her mouth. One of her
kids asked her why, and she said "no one was listening to her anyway."
She was right, in a way. We don't want to hear it when someone is
contemplating their own demise. After they're dead we wonder why they
didn't seek help, but before they go it's too uncomfortable to consider.
Even if they did talk people have difficulty with answering. We can’t
even talk about it very well after our loved ones are gone, so how much
harder is it when they’re alive?
The thing is we don't talk very
much about suicide. We don’t talk about substance much as it is, but
especially not about suicide. Silence is not golden in this; more like
lead weights dragging us down. That’s why I can’t use the name of my
nephew in this article. We’re too concerned about hurt feelings. Or
getting condemned for our lifestyle choices, which we don’t want to give
up. The people who are still around generally hurt too much to discuss
anything. Later, after the pain and anger fade, we don't really want to
bring back the bad feelings. In the meantime, the living try to assuage
our feelings by thinking the best and hoping the dead made it to heaven,
and we don’t want anyone to tell us otherwise. So we don’t talk. A lot
of times the suicidal person just doesn’t want to hear the truth anyway.
Theresa should’ve put the tape over her ears too, because she wasn’t
listening to people telling her that she was wrong. She felt justified
in her bitterness and didn’t want anyone to take it away from her. But
silence means those left behind are not allowed to explore all the
reasons for suicide and make a judgment about their own lives. Silence
keeps us from teaching, and keeps us from learning from whatever
mistakes were made.
Some say that suicide is an unforgivable
sin because of the prohibition of murder and the fact that the person
cannot repent. I believe it is a sin, but according to Jesus there is no
unforgivable sin except blaspheming (which means calling the works of
God evil) the Holy Spirit (Mark 3:29). Whether suicide falls under that
heading or not I don't know. You have to wonder though at the condition
of a heart that kills itself. Is it hard or soft? There are five
examples of suicide in the Bible (Samson, Judges 16:28-31;
Saul, 1
Samuel 31:4; Saul's armor bearer, 1 Samuel 31:5;
Ahithophel, 2 Samuel
17:23; Judas, Matthew 27:1-10). None of them were under good
circumstances. There is nothing in the Word one way or the other about
the acceptability of suicide to God or a specific forgiveness for it,
but I suspect it isn't a good thing.
There are, I suppose, many
reasons people have for terminating their own existence in this material
world. Pride is one, and pride is at the root of sin. Could be anger.
Sometimes shame for a sin or sins. Maybe a desire to get back at
someone. Release from physical injuries or disease is another. Some tell
me that suicide is the last act of trying to exert control over things
happening beyond our (perceived) control. Samson sacrificed his life to
get out of bondage and take a bunch of key enemies with him (pride).
Saul wanted to avoid the things his enemies might do to him after his
defeat in war (pride). Ahithophel was a trusted counselor to David,
later betraying him to help David’s son Absalom plot to take David’s
life and kingship. David prayed that Ahithophel’s normally “god like”
counsel would be turned to confusion, and after God answered that prayer
Ahithophel killed himself (pride). Judas killed himself out of remorse
for the betrayal of Jesus to the Jewish religious leaders. This one we
might not lay to pride, but I think in general it seems that taking
one’s own life at its root is an act of pride. The thing is we can make
up all kinds of reasons to bail out, but God put us here to be in His
family and do what He says. Bad situations occur because we make
decisions contrary to what God wants, or suffer from other’s bad
decisions as they depart from what God says. Either way, God wants us to
live and glorify Him with our lives or we wouldn’t be here. Suicide
doesn’t help accomplish this very well.
A contributing factor to
Theresa’s death was a bad divorce (like there are any good ones?). The
fallout from it really bothered her, which I knew from the few times we
had played music together. The rejection by her husband was a bitter
pill to swallow. This bitterness affected everyone around her, and
tended to drive people away. I have no idea what lead to the divorce or
how much work was put into the marriage by either of them, but even if
she was completely at fault (which I don’t think is true) suicide is not
the answer. In my nephew’s case I believe a contributing factor was that
he chose a homosexual lifestyle, although as I said there was no written
testimony that this was connected. It was just an additional coincidence
I guess that his friend moved out of the home a few weeks earlier and
his mom moved out at the same time. Both Theresa and my nephew were
quiet in life and quiet about their reasons for choosing death. Again,
we are not allowed to talk about it.
Divorce is a lot like
death. In some ways it is closely related to suicide because it kills
part of our soul. So much is killed by what are essentially (in most
cases) selfish people fixated on the greener grass over the fence. Love
dies. The relationship between man and wife is killed. Relationships
with kids are killed. Friends are affected too. New relationships
(marriages, step-kids, new friends) all have the taint of the death of
the previous marriage to contend with. Rarely is divorce a good thing.
Sometimes the only thing, but not a good thing. True, some don’t ask for
a divorce to be handed them. Sometimes there is no getting around it for
one reason or another. Still, something dies in most divorce and the
stink hits everyone. Like a virus the majority of divorce infects
everyone with dysfunction and more death in the form of crushed hope.
Those who are involved in suicide counseling say that depression is
the number one reason people kill themselves. A good definition of
depression I’ve heard is “anger without enthusiasm.” But I think the
biggest factor generating the anger (with or without enthusiasm) is a
loss of hope. Hope in a turnaround. Hope for forgiveness. Hope that
whatever bad stuff is happening will be over soon. Or hope that there is
a greater purpose for suffering. Silence drives the lack of hope because
of either a refusal to grab hold of hope offered by people who care, or
a genuine belief that there isn’t any hope along with the refusal to go
looking for hope.
The world is destroying hope, because our only
hope is God and the world is desperately trying to remove Him from their
midst. Lack of hope is one reason why the godless communist nation of
Cuba has the highest suicide rate in the western hemisphere. God gets
short shrift in many ways in our modern era, and one of the evidences is
a rise in the suicide rate (38,000 in 2010) which has passed the rate of
death from auto accidents (34,000 in 2010) in the U. S. Some attribute
this to drugs for depression not working as well anymore, but why would
we need drugs in the first place? Does depression come from a lack of
chemicals? (That’s a rhetorical question.)
I don’t think it is a
coincidence that the rise in depression and suicides is in proportion to
the rejection of God in society and God’s Law in the church. As our
culture has gotten more industrialized, less time has to be devoted to
eking out a living and we have more free time. What have we done with
it? Immersed ourselves in God’s ways and tried to build a better
society? Or do we selfishly indulge every whim for amusement or
entertainment? Do we spend more time reading the Bible or watching TV?
We have selfishly indulged, and the more we do that the more divorce and
homosexuality and other sins we inflict on ourselves, the more
depression we have, and the more suicides there are. I can’t see a
connection, can you? (He says with facetiousness.)
One survey
says divorced people are three times more likely to die from suicide as
married people (National Institute for Healthcare Research). Children of
divorce are more at risk for depression and other behavior problems
(such as homosexuality) because they often blame themselves for the
breakup or they just don’t have the stability that two parents (of
opposite gender) bring. Homosexual men are six times more likely to
attempt suicide than straight men (highest of any group). This means my
nephew had perhaps a nine times greater chance of suicide. Still don’t
think there was a connection? Of course not. Let’s be silent about that
too. These facts people will dismiss as coincidence. We can’t talk about
it. We don’t like the fact that there are connections between
selfishness, divorce, homosexuality, depression and suicide. We don’t
want to be reminded that our choices have consequences, which is at the
heart of our silence, and silencing others. We’re not allowed to explore
the potential causes in order to stop the self-slaughter. Many would
rather the depressed person just off themselves and be permanently
quiet. They are making too much noise. Another roll of duct tape please.
People blame homosexual suicide on bullying or lack of approval of
gay marriage. I’m not kidding. The Center for Disease Control has a
number of references in the search results for lack of gay marriage
approval as a cause of homosexual suicide. The hate-filled homosexual
lobby is working overtime to convince us that it’s really other people’s
fault that the gay lifestyle is so deadly. They want to silence all
those who object to their perversity and know how hateful their
“alternate lifestyle” really is. Shifting word definitions, using
“official” organizations and “scientific” studies slanted their way,
attacking people (homosexuals in general are the worst bullies on the
planet, see Sodom, Genesis 19 or any of their “parades”) rather than
ideas, and labeling studies that don’t go their way as “controversial”
are just some of the weapons used.
The problem with their line
of attack is that lots of people regardless of choice of sex partners
are bullied all the time. Homosexuals even bully their own in order to
keep them from getting out of the homosexual lifestyle. To them, a dead
homosexual (even self-killed) is better than a live one that has
repented. A dead homosexual can’t repent and prove that the arguments in
favor of homosexuality are lacking intelligence, science and morality.
Most of us just remove ourselves from the vicinity of bullies, fight
back, or ignore it. We don’t generally think to kill ourselves to get
back at the bully. I have to think there are more powerful factors than
bullying or marriage recognition that would drive a homosexual to
self-murder. If you examine the lifestyle of the homosexual it’s easy to
see that it is the lifestyle itself that contributes heavily to suicide.
In an effort to justify sin there are people who say that
homosexuals are “born that way.” I don’t buy the justification, but I do
buy the fact that homosexuals are born that way. Of course they are. Sin
is natural, and we are all born with the tendency to sin. However, God
has provided a way out of the slavery to sin through the death and
resurrection of Him who knew no sin. He has given us hope and power to
choose a better way. We can turn from death to life. The homosexual
argument is intended to remove responsibility, but all it really does is
rob people of this hope. Most instinctively know that their choice is
wrong, and there are those who seek a way out. In seeking to justify
themselves and avoid responsibility homosexual bullies change hope into
despair and drive many to suicide. It is homosexuals that are killing
homosexuals.
The homosexual choice is regressive meaning that
after a while, as with drugs, the beginning stuff doesn’t have the
appeal it started with. So a homosexual has to do more and more
perverse, hateful, shameful and hurtful behavior over time to get the
same feelings as at first. Homosexuality is hate. Hate for God, hate for
good, and hate for self. There’s no dodging the fact that the lifestyle
makes hearts harder as time goes on. And gets people closer to suicide.
The shame and guilt come from inside and being out of whack with their
Creator, not from outside. Divorce is regressive too, judging by the
number of repeat divorces.
Roughly half of marriages break down.
This statistic is skewed because divorced people usually remarry at
least once or twice. My natural mom was married seven times that I know
of, so she was really skewed. If I remember right her mother was on
number 13 last I knew. There are more people in long term marriages than
not, which if more broadly known would encourage hope. The divorced ones
keep the statistics high by making divorce into an art form. They just
won’t keep it together. I’m pretty experienced in the effects of divorce
on other lives, having been through six of them when I was a child. One
divorce is hard, two almost impossible, but six is just freakin’ nuts.
Add that to five foster homes and this might explain my own depression I
had for a while. My natural mother was one of those who couldn’t keep it
together. In her case, however, she just refused to be anything other
than selfish.
But you say, “Why does he
not?” Because the Lord was witness between you and the wife of your
youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and
your wife by covenant. Did he not make them one, with a portion of the
Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly
offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be
faithless to the wife of your youth. (Malachi 2:14–15, ESV)
Not only am I an expert on the effects of silence and divorce on kids,
I’m pretty knowledgeable on the effects of homosexuality too. I was
abused by one. Not very badly, but it was bad enough I still remember it
clearly. I haven’t told anyone about this until recently (there’s that
silence again), but when I was about 12 a guy in a trailer park next to
my apartment complex befriended me. Gene was a nice guy father-figure
type at a time when I was between fathers. He had a small motorcycle
called a Honda Trail 90 and took me out to ride it. People who work in
the counseling field will recognize something called “grooming” was
going on here, but at 12 I just thought he was being a friend. Things
were fine until we got to rough housing a little in his trailer and he
stuck his hand down my pants.
After a moment of shocked
immobility I left and never went back. It was obvious that he was taking
advantage of my broken life to groom me for his own purposes. Keep in
mind too that this was about 42 years ago. It’s only gotten worse since
then. Homosexuals work this way. They create more confusion and take
advantage of it to lure uncertain people into a lifestyle change. They
like to start young if they can because it is easier to confuse. Former
homosexual Andrew Comiskey in his book, Pursuing Sexual
Wholeness states, "After my first homosexual experience at age sixteen,
I quickly developed an addiction to it because of the affirmation and
sense of acceptance I was finally receiving from other men." Once you
are in the lifestyle, guilt and shame coupled with silence keep you in
it. Don’t try to sell me the usual tripe put out by homosexual activists
that Gene was a pedophile and not a homosexual. They are evil in the
same way. It may be that a pedophile can work his or her evil on either
gender, but the core behavior and motivation is the same. Homosexuality
is a predatory sin. Just because there are different flavors of bad
doesn’t mean any of them are good.
My nephew probably got lured
in by similar means. Someone took advantage of his shy, quiet nature, a
broken home, the fact that he was a little effeminate because of being
raised by a strongly selfish mom (as was I in my early years), had
perhaps a little difficulty with girls, and convinced him he was a
homosexual. Maybe this person even “loved” him or acted like it. My
suspicion is that my nephew thought he was “in love” and going to be in
his new found relationship forever, just like a heterosexual male would
think about a marriage. I’m guessing it was a shock to find out that
there is no such thing as a monogamous homosexual relationship. In fact,
according to homosexual books and articles, a homosexual relationship is
healthy only when there is no sexual fidelity at all. The average
homosexual has 300 to 500 partners in a lifetime (20 to 106 a year), and
a large percentage have 1,000 or more. This lifetime is also 20 years
shorter than the average straight male (60 years compared to 80). I
don’t have any doubt that the broken relationship along with the shame
and guilt of the sin of homosexuality did my nephew in.
He
couldn’t talk to his father because as nice as he is, and in some ways a
better man than me, he doesn’t like to talk about anything unpleasant.
He routinely shuts down conversations he doesn’t like. It wouldn’t have
mattered if my nephew would’ve opened up; his father isn’t a believer
and wouldn’t have had any good answers anyway. He would’ve affirmed his
son’s negative behavior and cemented the eventual suicide option. His
mother went to church but my impression is she’s one of those mushy
Christians-in-name-only that won’t speak up about what is right either.
My other nephew (brother to the one who killed himself) oddly enough has
turned out to be a solid Christian and has married an excellent
Christian woman too. But not so odd I guess – I did too.
You
wouldn’t have thought it could happen knowing my early childhood, but in
my case I was fortunate enough to be adopted at 14 by good parents that
helped point me in the right direction. My (other) nephew and I are
among those that are proof that God can rescue from even the toughest
circumstances. However, Christians are condemned and told to keep silent
before we even open our mouths. Partly this is because some Christians
don’t know what they are talking about and should just keep their mouths
shut, but mostly it is undeserved. God has the answers and shutting His
people up just robs others of hope. The answer to depression, divorce,
homosexuality and other sin is to turn away from it toward God’s ways
outlined for us in the Bible. But we don’t want to do that. Silence
enables us to just keep going as we want to. We want freedom to choose
self-indulgence so much that we’ll ignore any evidence that the result
of our choice to depart from God is universally deadly.
The
church is silent about both divorce and homosexuality (and many more
sins), doesn’t discipline sinning members, and throws out the Law so
they’re not reminded of how they’re falling down on the job. It does not
teach love in the biblical sense. It teaches mostly sentiment and
confuses that with love. My son was the unknowing target in a church of
the start of a grooming process by the sound guy. He wanted to learn how
to do the sound, he hung around the sound guy trying to learn (and was
started on the grooming process), then we found out the guy had been
involved in previous incidents with other boys. It was stopped by the
pastor, because the pastor knew what had happened before but didn’t say
anything to protect the abuser. He was promoting an unbiblical idea of
love. Happily in this case the silence was broken, but it was almost too
late and certainly too little.
In addition to the church’s
silence in proper Bible teaching about these subjects, we are silent
about affirmation or reassurance of the good choices people make. We
don’t encourage each other to love and good works (Hebrews 10:24) as we
should. Love is truth, and it is applying the truth by doing what is
right and just. The grievously wrong idea that silence doesn’t kill
people is a crock. We might think that by keeping silent (or shutting
other people up) we aren’t hurting anyone, but we aren’t helping either.
Our silence does not come from loving God or the truth. We actually
contribute quite a bit to the problems. Silence equates to just standing
there at a car accident while people die. We are not allowed to say that
divorce or homosexuality increase the chances of suicide (or are
generally destructive period), or warn people who participate in such
behavior of what is likely to happen to them. Our silence allows people
to fall into tar pits of sin and we don’t even mark the trail as
hazardous. To be politically correct is to be practically useless.
I think the reason many don’t want to talk about tough subjects such as
divorce or homosexuality especially in the context of suicide is we
don’t want to hear that our opinions about it are (usually) wrong. Real
love is hard to show, and comes from the Word dwelling richly in our
hearts and lives. Yet we don’t read His Word and we don’t follow the
whole package. We also want to indulge ourselves with a pity party, and
we don’t want anyone sidetracking us from doing whatever our little
pea-picking heart’s desire. We don’t want to say other people are wrong
because we might want to do the same things. Silence starts long before
the actual suicide when we silence the Bible in our lives.
We
want to believe that the deceased are in heaven, because the alternative
is horrible to contemplate. However, if we get caught in silence we are
in danger of losing more people to self-killing. If we can’t talk, we
can’t warn. We can’t use the example of the dead to help the living
avoid the same mistakes. If your friend told you they were going to take
the car this afternoon and drive off a cliff, would you do everything
you could to head them off? Even if you had to tie them up till they
came to their senses? So why are we silent when a friend says they are
going to divorce? Why shut up about homosexuality? How is it love to
stand by and watch them drive (or run) over the cliff? We may not be
able to stop them, or might not have the opportunity for a specific
friend (like Theresa or my nephew) but we can still do everything we
can. That includes having frank and truthful discussion beforehand about
God’s Word and exposing the truth about the consequences of sinful
behavior. We can forego silence by taking in all of God’s words into our
heart of flesh, living them out, and telling others about them.
If the dead could come back, I’m sure we’d hear all about how wrong it
is to self-murder. We’d hear regret and sorrow about the pain inflicted
on those they left behind. There’d be sadness about a life cut short,
and how much the dead could’ve done for good and God with the life they
had left if they could do it over (Luke 16:19-31). There would be solid
teaching on the truth of God’s Word and the importance of repentance and
living it out. I’m sure the dead would have excellent testimony about
the reality of God and the finality of death. I also don’t think it
would be heard because it would interfere with our selfish aims. But one
thing’s for sure: I don’t think you would hear anyone extol the virtue
of suicide.
So I’m taking the duct tape off of my mouth. Certain
people in my family don’t want to talk, but they can’t shut me up. All
they can do is put duct tape over their ears. The two people I describe
here were adults. Younger people who suicide (such as the 12 year-old
daughter of a friend of mine who shot herself) might need a whole other
article. As adults, Theresa and my nephew (he reached 30 years old,
Theresa was in her 40’s) made their own decisions and were responsible.
In both cases there was help available in God, family and friends. They
just either didn’t take it (duct tape on the ears) or wouldn’t seek it
(duct tape on the mouth). They got so self-focused that everyone else
and every other opinion just didn’t make it into their thinking. They
knew better, they just chose different.
Intended or not, suicide
is generally the epitome of hateful, selfish behavior. I say this not
for the dead, but for the living, and I think most of the dead would
agree with me (now anyway). There is nothing good about it, and it
doesn’t solve anything. The sun rises the next day, and the next, and
the next. A few sad feelings linger to remind us of friends or family no
longer here, but I’ve got news for those contemplating ending it all –
life goes on. After a few days, other than a few sad feelings, most will
hardly know you’re gone. You will not make a difference with your
self-termination. The best difference you could make is in turning anger
into humble obedience to God and abiding in the whole of His living
oracles. You will make more of a difference with the death of your old
or natural man (the flesh or a soul opposed to God) or woman (1
Corinthians 2:14) and a resurrected life in the newness of the gospel
through the blood of Jesus the Messiah shed for you. If you want to
kill, then crucify the flesh (the part that hates God and doesn’t follow
His Word - Romans 6:6; Galatians 2:20, 5:24) with its sinful passions
and desires. Repent and be baptized. It’s not that hard. Forgiveness is
readily available. Humble yourself and submit to His Word.
Therefore put away all filthiness and rampant
wickedness and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able
to save your souls. (James 1:21, ESV)
Everyone will have
to answer for their actions, and suicide (along with divorce, murder,
theft, homosexuality, and other lawlessness) is going to be very hard to
explain to a loving and just God (Revelation 22:15). I do not know if
self-killers are going to be in heaven. That decision has already been
cemented one way or the other and is between the deceased and God. The
living need to examine the mistakes of the dead and learn from them.
Hopefully we learn to stay away from the destructive behavior that God
says is an abomination. Hopefully we can start talking about it.
Hopefully the church can go back to teaching the plain meaning of the
Word of Life so people have a reason to continue. Hopefully we can go
back to love as it is shown and taught by God, including His Laws. It’s
not my call whether someone is in heaven or hell. But don’t take the
chance. There is a lot to live for and help is available. At least take
the duct tape off of the mouth or the ears. Read His Word. Talk about
it. Listen to hope. Grab hold. Flee from sexual immorality (1
Corinthians 6:18). Love.
Shalom Bruce Scott Bertram
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A contributing factor to
Theresa’s death was a bad divorce (like there are any good ones?). The
fallout from it really bothered her, which I knew from the few times we
had played music together. The rejection by her husband was a bitter
pill to swallow. This bitterness affected everyone around her, and
tended to drive people away. I have no idea what lead to the divorce or
how much work was put into the marriage by either of them, but even if
she was completely at fault (which I don’t think is true) suicide is not
the answer. In my nephew’s case I believe a contributing factor was that
he chose a homosexual lifestyle, although as I said there was no written
testimony that this was connected. It was just an additional coincidence
I guess that his friend moved out of the home a few weeks earlier and
his mom moved out at the same time. Both Theresa and my nephew were
quiet in life and quiet about their reasons for choosing death. Again,
we are not allowed to talk about it.
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Lorem Ipsum is simply dummy text of the printing and typesetting industry. Lorem
Ipsum has been the industry's standard dummy text ever since the 1500s, when an
unknown printer took a galley of type and scrambled it to make a type specimen book.
It has survived not only five centuries, but also the leap into electronic typesetting,
remaining essentially unchanged. It was popularised in the 1960s with the release
of Letraset sheets containing Lorem Ipsum passages, and more recently with desktop
publishing software like Aldus PageMaker including versions of Lorem Ipsum.
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Lorem Ipsum is simply dummy text of the printing and typesetting industry. Lorem
Ipsum has been the industry's standard dummy text ever since the 1500s, when an
unknown printer took a galley of type and scrambled it to make a type specimen book.
It has survived not only five centuries, but also the leap into electronic typesetting,
remaining essentially unchanged. It was popularised in the 1960s with the release
of Letraset sheets containing Lorem Ipsum passages, and more recently with desktop
publishing software like Aldus PageMaker including versions of Lorem Ipsum.
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Lorem Ipsum is simply dummy text of the printing and typesetting industry. Lorem
Ipsum has been the industry's standard dummy text ever since the 1500s, when an
unknown printer took a galley of type and scrambled it to make a type specimen book.
It has survived not only five centuries, but also the leap into electronic typesetting,
remaining essentially unchanged. It was popularised in the 1960s with the release
of Letraset sheets containing Lorem Ipsum passages, and more recently with desktop
publishing software like Aldus PageMaker including versions of Lorem Ipsum.
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Lorem Ipsum is simply dummy text of the printing and typesetting industry. Lorem
Ipsum has been the industry's standard dummy text ever since the 1500s, when an
unknown printer took a galley of type and scrambled it to make a type specimen book.
It has survived not only five centuries, but also the leap into electronic typesetting,
remaining essentially unchanged. It was popularised in the 1960s with the release
of Letraset sheets containing Lorem Ipsum passages, and more recently with desktop
publishing software like Aldus PageMaker including versions of Lorem Ipsum.
This is the h5 title class
Lorem Ipsum is simply dummy text of the printing and typesetting industry. Lorem
Ipsum has been the industry's standard dummy text ever since the 1500s, when an
unknown printer took a galley of type and scrambled it to make a type specimen book.
It has survived not only five centuries, but also the leap into electronic typesetting,
remaining essentially unchanged. It was popularised in the 1960s with the release
of Letraset sheets containing Lorem Ipsum passages, and more recently with desktop
publishing software like Aldus PageMaker including versions of Lorem Ipsum.
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Lorem Ipsum is simply dummy text of the printing and typesetting industry. Lorem
Ipsum has been the industry's standard dummy text ever since the 1500s, when an
unknown printer took a galley of type and scrambled it to make a type specimen book.
It has survived not only five centuries, but also the leap into electronic typesetting,
remaining essentially unchanged. It was popularised in the 1960s with the release
of Letraset sheets containing Lorem Ipsum passages, and more recently with desktop
publishing software like Aldus PageMaker including versions of Lorem Ipsum.
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